7 Myths About Life Coaching that Only Millennials Would Understand
There are a lot of misconceptions about life coaches. There are things that life coaches are, and there are things that life coaches are not. It’s important to make these distinctions because by avoiding a life coach like the plague could be holding you back from living the life you deserve. Below are 7 misconceptions, or myths, about life coaching.
1. There’s Something Wrong with You
A personal favorite but this couldn’t be further from the truth. In fact, I’m not even 100% sure what this myth means. The fact that there may be something wrong with you is irrelevant. Life coaches aren’t there to figure out if anything is wrong with you. Nor is it their job to fix anything that is wrong with you.
Life coaches exist to help you plan, strategize, focus on a skill or goal, provide a different perspective, motivate you, and etc.
None of this involves dissecting or fixing anything that is “wrong” with you.
And by the way, there is nothing wrong with you.
2. Life Coaches Are Like Therapists
This is the biggest misconception when it comes to life coaches. The main purpose of a life coach is not to listen to you speak about issues you may have regarding an abusive partner, or a post-traumatic event. A good life coaches will notice when someone needs therapy and make that recommendation instead.
A good life coach will attentively listen to you but they are not best utilized to hear you vent about past life events.
Less Dr. Phil and more Tony Robbins. Ya dig?
3. They’re Cheerleaders
Although motivation and positive reinforcement is crucial, life coaches aren’t cheering on every single success or mistake you make.
But then again, if that is what you require to move forward in life then a life coach may provide that service. But, isn’t that what your parents and grandparents are for?
4. Your Life Is a Mess
Hiring a life coach could be helpful to ensure you don’t deviate from your path no matter the state of your life. Some of the most successful people in the world have hired life coaches to help with certain aspects of their lives. Oprah and Leonardo DiCaprio both had life coaches. They don’t appear to be hot messes.
Whether your life is a mess or not, a coach can help you strategize, motivate, and get you on the level you should be at.
In the end, thinking that your life is a “mess” because you are considering a life coach is a “story” you are telling yourself.
5. Life Coaches Act Like Your Boss
You are an adult. Life coaches are not there to tell you what to do. Remember, you hire life coaches. You are paying them for a service.
Although, they will be there to hold you accountable, they are not someone you should fear. They are there to help you.
6. A Waste of Money
Let’s be upfront about this. It could be a waste of money. You could end up with a bad coach, the experience is negative, or you don’t see the results you want. Of course that is a possibility.
However, what are you doing to invest in yourself? How are you bettering yourself as a person? A life coach is meant to be an investment. There’s potential for a return or loss. You just have to do your due diligence on the coach you select, and then take a leap of faith.
The most important aspect of this is YOU have to be committed. The life coach is a small component. In the end, YOU have to take action, and YOU have to make the tough decision.
Ask any successful person if they made it to where they are by themselves.
Where am I going with this, you ask?
No one succeeds on their own.
7. Life Coaches Know Everything
Life coaches are “not know-it-alls.” They don’t have all of life’s answers. Nor do they have life all figured out themselves. No one does, not even the Dalai Lama. But what makes life coaches unique is their passion for learning about life. Their purpose is not to solve every problem you run into. It’s to work with you to solve the problem. A good life coach will create a constructive dialogue to help you find the solution to your problem.
If a life coach claims they have all the answers to your problems, don’t even bother with that life coach.
I’m not here to sell you on life coaches. I simply want to debunk the myths that are behind these mystical people. The goal is to provide you objective information so you can make informed decisions when an opportunity presents itself.
Life coaches are not for everyone. Some people can accomplish their goals on their own, and some with the help of other resources. But some of you need a personalized solution to help you write your book, start your business, or build positive habits.
As I touched on earlier, hiring a life coach is an investment. With the proper research, you can find the coach that will help you flourish in life. Making this investment can by far pay dividends in all areas of your life.
You aren’t perfect. Neither is a life coach. But imagine what the two of you could accomplish together.